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18-06-2019 08:21 PM
18-06-2019 08:21 PM
Re: why can't I cope longer?
Evening @Former-Member
Thats ok i get what you mean by opening a can of worms when speaking about family. Its hard wanting their approval but knowing its unlikely youll get it huh. Wanting to be love and accepted (esp by those who are suppose to love and care) is normal and natural though. And yep taking a break can be a good thing.
Urgh technology. It sucks when they dont want to work! Hope you got centrelink stuff sorted out and your rego too. You know you can do your rego online?
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19-06-2019 09:11 PM
19-06-2019 09:11 PM
Re: why can't I cope longer?
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22-06-2019 03:23 AM
22-06-2019 03:23 AM
Re: why can't I cope longer?
So cold here this week, out in the country. -4 o/n and white frost on everything in the mornings.
Suicidal thoughts less yesterday. I've been getting a lot of flashbacks lately (ptsd) from my daughter's passing, disappointing as thought I was over it 😞 Must be the heightened stress levels. Need to find a pdychologist maybe, but not sure there's much more they can offer. I've started using the mindfulness strategies to get through the waves.
Miss everyone 💜
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22-06-2019 09:44 AM
22-06-2019 09:44 AM
Re: why can't I cope longer?
take your time with unpacking, its a really big job esp having to sort out everything.
you dont have to get over anything @Former-Member i cant really imagine how your feeling with the loss of your daughter.
it might not be such a bad idea to speak to a psychologist, your adjusting to quite abit like new house and new community etc and having to maintain your own mental and physical wellbeing.
Do you have much on today?
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22-06-2019 10:22 AM
22-06-2019 10:22 AM
Re: why can't I cope longer?
How's things with you?
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22-06-2019 10:32 AM
22-06-2019 10:32 AM
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i only got out of bed about 9 oclock usually im up before 7 so was a sleep in. do you want to talk about the things rolling through your head atm?
yeah ive got a bird, a dog, and the horses- they arent really mine though i just look after them.
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22-06-2019 11:20 PM
22-06-2019 11:20 PM
Re: why can't I cope longer?
Did some embroidery today, dad's initials on handkerchiefs. That's therapeutic.
Only had two flashbacks today, not so intense.
Tonight I watched the Whitney Houston documentary - so depressing, especially how hey used her & he doesn't it's & He untimely end, and her daughter... Sheesh. Bit of a trigger but managing. How's your depression going?
Hi there @Adge, I see you in the background ☺️👍 The bird life is wonderful here, so often want to jump online and tell you about it. How's your birds going?
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23-06-2019 09:27 AM
23-06-2019 09:27 AM
Re: why can't I cope longer?
well done on getting things done yesterday. its ok that it was a late start, i dont think furniture and things can grow legs and run away 😉
with getting some help though, i wonder if the salvation army would be able to help you unload your things into your new house, in my area they help people with moving, maybe thatll be the same for you too... if it comes down to it, perhaps post on a local facebook page and ask if anyone would be willing to help you with the heavy furniture- there may be some fee involved in that though.
i hear what your saying about wanting to be left alone but also feeling lonley too. that can be really tricky to manage hey, its something i contend with too.
going to the shops is a really great start with getting out in your new community. perhaps theres an embroidery type group you could join in with or like a walk and talk meetup where you go walking with other people and meet new people within that group...
Sounds like theres abit on your mind hey, thats not unusual to have going on. acceptance and letting go are really hard things to do so dont be to hard on yourself if the things you try dont work straight away. perhaps journalling or using a 'worry box' may be of help?
im glad to hear your flashbacks werent as intense though, i hope that made the day just a little easier..
im going a little better today, things at home are rough with pops dementia and physical ailments worsening, along with more increased responsibilites, more tests which are quite worrying, surgury coming up, aniversaries.. i still have more downs then ups but try to remember the good days when its a tough day.
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23-06-2019 09:56 AM - edited 23-06-2019 10:02 AM
23-06-2019 09:56 AM - edited 23-06-2019 10:02 AM
Re: why can't I cope longer?
Thanks @outlander - that's a very thorough reply 💜 @ Remembering the Good Days, and that they do come, sure helps. I find I have to MAKE them happen more though these days, when I have the energy - kinda an investment in the future I guess.
Understand with your dad, I went through this with my dad last year, and now, but he's in care now., and iisee him less having move away - visiting is harder now... but its good to be away from abusive brothers Life is so difficult..
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23-06-2019 10:03 AM - edited 23-06-2019 10:16 AM
23-06-2019 10:03 AM - edited 23-06-2019 10:16 AM
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indeed @Former-Member sometimes we cant wait for the good days to come. how do you make your days better?
your move sounds abit bitter sweet- both good and bad points.