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19-07-2016 09:37 PM
19-07-2016 09:37 PM
Question on CSA
Hi,
I'm not sure if this is allowed, so moderaters please remove if not.
But I'm having a problem seperating the 'icky' feelings from CSA and 'nice' feelings from intimate situations. My psychologist doesn't really understand and hasn't provided any helpful solutions, just anxiety reduction. I have PTSD from this, but I think I've pretty effectively dealt with most of the ptsd symtoms now.
Does anyone have any advice for how to seperate/get over the 'icky' feelings? I've never been able to have a relationship because of it and I'd really love to have a family one of these days.
Does anyone know of any resources on this topic that may be helpful?
Thanks!
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20-07-2016 09:34 AM
20-07-2016 09:34 AM
Re: Question on CSA
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20-07-2016 10:05 AM - edited 20-07-2016 10:06 AM
20-07-2016 10:05 AM - edited 20-07-2016 10:06 AM
Re: Question on CSA
Hi Bec,
Thanks for your post and for your courage to share about CSA and the difficulties it’s creating for you. I just wanted to jump in a say it’s perfectly fine to post about CSA here on the Forums. We only ask users to refrain from posting graphic or specific details about their abuse, as it can be triggering for others, and potentially themselves, and we just want to make sure the Forums are a safe space for everyone.
Some psychologists are better equiped than others in helping clients with the trauma associated with CSA, so it's really important to try and find someone who has experience in this area. In addition to @pip’s great suggestions, you could also look into contacting a CASA (Centre Against Sexual Assault) service in your state. They usually operate a 24/7 telephone counselling service for survivors of CSA and may be able to provide you with some helpful information and referrals. They go by different names in each state, so if you follow this link here you should be able to find the one closest to you. Also, their websites usually carry some helpful factsheets and recourses on CSA that you might find helpful. I’ve provided the link for the Victorian CASA resources on CSA here as it’s the one I’m most familiar with.
Again thanks for sharing – hopefully these suggestions are helpful.
All the best,
supernova.
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20-07-2016 10:27 AM
20-07-2016 10:27 AM
Re: Question on CSA
I think the harsest thing is learning to trust again. To separate the past from now. Its a hard journey for us but there is hope & a peace ahead for you.
I just googled 'adult survivors & there came up a lot of resources. The first two are;
BLUE KNOT FOUNDATION
(inspiring recovery from childhood trauma)
Phone: 02 8920 3611
Email: admin@blueknot.org.au
PO Box 597 Milsons Point NSW 1565
Mon-Fri, 9am-5pm AEST
Helpline Phone:1300 657 380
Email: helpline@blueknot.org.au
http://www.blueknot.org.au
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South Eastern Centre Against Sexual Assault & Family Violence.
Centre Against Sexual Assault Crisis Vic
phone1800 737 732
secasa@monashhealth.org
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20-07-2016 10:43 AM
20-07-2016 10:43 AM
Re: Question on CSA
Dan Allender
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20-07-2016 10:51 AM
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Re: Question on CSA
"Remembering and telling the truth about terrible events are prerequisites both for the restoration of the social order and for the healing of individual victims.
The conflict between the will to deny horrible events and the will to proclaim them aloud is the central dialectic of psychological trauma. People who have survived atrocities often tell their stories in a highly emotional, contradictory, and fragmented manner that undermines their credibility and thereby serves the twin imperatives of truth-telling and secrecy.
When the truth is finally recognized, survivors can begin their recovery. But far too often secrecy prevails, and the story of the traumatic event surfaces not as a verbal narrative but as a symptom.
The psychological distress symptoms of traumatized people simultaneously call attention to the existence of an unspeakable secret and deflect attention from it. This is most apparent in the way traumatized people alternate between feeling numb and reliving the event.
The dialectic of trauma gives rise to complicated, sometimes uncanny alterations of consciousness, which George Orwell, one of the committed truth-tellers of our century, called "doublethink," and which mental health professionals, searching for calm, precise language, call "dissociation." It results in protean, dramatic, and often bizarre symptoms of hysteria which Freud recognized a century ago as disguised communications about sexual abuse in childhood. . . .
- Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery
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21-07-2016 01:22 PM
21-07-2016 01:22 PM
Re: Question on CSA
Hello Saneforums
Ive Lost Bonding Generally Because Of Loss Of Physical Touch And Being A Victim
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21-07-2016 01:46 PM
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Don't give up but go gently, be kind with yourself at heart. 👣
& phone numbers
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23-07-2016 06:07 PM
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Re: Question on CSA
Some events that continue on in my life, it's this aspect I recall of the event. It's always an unfavorable feeling. Like I'm never myself.
Well. You learn something new everyday!
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25-07-2016 10:12 PM
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