@Ruby_Bear  I would love to help if I could but I am in the opposite side of a similar situation. My wife and I love sex but for one reason or another we just don’t sync. I feel like I always want it and I am annoying her about it. She feels bad for not wanting. I do shift work and it sometimes makes it difficult to cause she will feel like it but I am at work or so tired that all I want to do is sleep. I wish I could be more help and I hope this starts the conversation going