@Appleblossom I haven't read this piece but you have your finger on the pulse with the latest releases. I am glad that it has given you some healing with your siblings deaths, and all these years later must still cause you pain. Not having read it, I am unsure if the author is agreeing that 'time heals all wounds' or if the author is refuting that idea as absurd in the face of familial suicide. 

I think that time can help wounds to scab over but I have found more healing in not pressuring myself to heal, as opposed to gritting me teeth and forcing myself to heal, simply because it would make others around me more comfortable and at ease. I feel social pressure to heal, and ironically the most pressure comes from people whose lives are a million light years apart from my own life experiences. They may vaguely intellectually understand what I have been through, but imagining, is not the same as living. 

On Friday night I watched 3 episodes on Ken Burns doco on SBS on Hemingway. It was sad and repugnant all at the same time. I felt sad for his mental illness and the legacy of mental illness that crosses generations like my own, but repulsed by his macho killing of animals and game hunting. It triggered memories of my father, all that over the top masculinity, but then falling to pieces when he is without a subservient women by his side to look after him and be a compliant nurse maid. Totally pissed me off to hear his 1st wife admit she loved him more than she ever loved her children, can totally relate to women like that, because my mother was the same. I guess you could say he was a victim of the times, but it was so uncool how he treated his transexual son. I found it interesting that his eldest boy, or second eldest, I can't remember, had a psychotic break that went on for some months but that it was his first, and his last. Gave me some hope I will be a one hit wonder and won't be shoved down the rabbit hole again.....none of us know what health problems lie ahead of us. But the legacy of suicide continues in the Hemingway family, I think his granddaughter or grand niece took her own life not that long ago....they remind me of the Plath/Hughes families.....I guess cos in many ways it is my family story too and I am scared that it hasn't ended and my niece/nephew could be next......I hope you are well if you are in lockdown Appleblossom