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27-11-2022 07:51 PM
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Re: Struggling: TW suicide
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27-11-2022 08:02 PM
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Re: Struggling: TW suicide
Once you learn to validate yourself, you may find you won't cry as much @creative_writer - that's what happened for me.
I spent years crying and crying and crying... no one could 'save me'. I had to do it myself. I had to learn to self-soothe. I had to learn I couldn't rely on others. Yes, I had others around me, but I couldn't RELY on them.
This takes time to learn...but it is definitely achievable.
You are NOT alone.
I found these forums most valuable in that I was empowered to take control. The peer to peer relationships was a way to give me hope. Tell me that I CAN take the reins and make a difference.
You can too!
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27-11-2022 08:07 PM
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Re: Struggling: TW suicide
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27-11-2022 08:31 PM
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Re: Struggling: TW suicide
I used to think the same @creative_writer - longing for connection yet petrified of getting hurt.
It has taken time, but one things that stuck with me was - if you want relatioships, you need the good and the bad that come with it. That is, if you want the connection, belonging and satisfaction that comes with relationships, you need to be prepared to get hurt sometimes. This was the stark reality I had to learn.
I actually read it in a book. If I find the excerpt, it explains it much better than what I can....
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27-11-2022 08:45 PM
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27-11-2022 08:50 PM
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True @creative_writer - no one can hurt you when you are alone... except yourself.
Whatever I'm saying is through experience. Please don't think this is true for all. As someone diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, I was really my own worst enemy.
When alone, i hurt myself by not letting myself feel the warmth of another human being. When I am alone, I hurt myself by letting my mind wind down dangerous paths to SH thoughts. When I am alone, I deny myself of the laughter that comes with interacting. When I am alone...I am alone. If I fall, there is NONE to pick me up.
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27-11-2022 09:06 PM
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Re: Struggling: TW suicide
It feels less painful to be alone than to feel lonely around people because it feels more acceptable to feel lonely when alone.
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27-11-2022 09:09 PM
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Re: Struggling: TW suicide
Found it @creative_writer . Excerpt from The Happiness Trap by Dr Russ Harris. I’m just reading it again…..wow….
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27-11-2022 09:10 PM
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You are honestly writing EVERYTHING about my former life @creative_writer - fear of relationships, growing up independent, finding parents too clingy....
You are 100% describing ME
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27-11-2022 09:27 PM
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