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[Bunniekins]

@Former-Member@Appleblossom@Bubbles3@outlander Hi hope everyone is having a kind day today.

and @Bettinae21 nice to meet you, hoping your day is going well too. 

[Bubbles3]

Hi @Former-Member.

Things at home arnt nice again. We arnt going camping anymore coz hubby doesnt want to. His blaming me for everything i do right or wrong. It doesnt waht i do , its never good enough.

I dont know what to do anymore. I feel so lost. And empty.

I feel worthless and hayed all the time

[Bubbles3]

Hated*

[Bubbles3]

Hi @Bunniekins

[Faith-and-Hope]

@Bubbles3 ..... maybe call Carers Australia yourself and ask them how to help your husband ?

http://www.carersaustralia.com.au

Can you speak to your doctor ?

It is easier to support a carer to support their family member than it is to try to support a family in breakdown Hon, so it is very good, and important, that you are continuing to speak out and try to find that support.

[Bubbles3]

I have already called a few places and had an interview at home with an organization. After new years there going to step in and help us out. But the hard part is that hubby doesnt want the help @Faith-and-Hope

[Faith-and-Hope]

If they are stepping in to help @Bubbles3, then they will be speaking to your hubby and will help him to see that you all need the support, including the kids.  The way he is treating you right now is making things worse, but he obviously doesn’t mean to because he has done his best to be supportive up until now.  

He is not a mean person, right ?  Just a carer who has reached his limits, but you as the lived-experience one need him to stop behaving that way towards you.

He is going to have to accept outside help because you all need it.

[Appleblossom]

I had a husband who said I was "never good enough."  Dont believe it. He never found anyone better that made life tougher for all of the children. I believed it and it took a while to shake off the negative programming. There is no perfect person or parent.

@Bubbles3You can only do your best and that should be enough.

[Bubbles3]

No his not a mean person. @Faith-and-Hope <br><br>But his being a fking d*ck head right now. <br>I cant stand being around him when he is like that.

[Bubbles3]

Thanks @Appleblossom