Lived Experience Forum

[Meowmy]

@BryanaCamp Hey sweetie, how are you? Hard and busy at work can make mood drop.lol. Hope you feel better soon.

[Gazza75]

Thanks @BryanaCamp, I used to have an unusual hobby, would like to do it again in the future. It was a nice surprise. One of the ladies was very nice about it. How was your day? 

[BryanaCamp]

thanks @Meowmy you're such a sweety. I'm feeling a bit sad and lonesome tonight - partly because I'm organising a winery lunch for a bunch of friends. It's supposed to be a nice relaxing day for me but my friends are all being a bit diva & high-maintenance which is stressful for me, more work & time when I need my energy to focus on perfomring well at my new jobs. I'm  remembering why I never organise social get togethers. oh boy, friendships are so complicated. thanks for your reply hon

How are you tonight? Have you had a nice dinner?

[TAB]

..BC ..  .. @BryanaCamp  lol um yeh one step at time maybe lol .. leave friends where they are are happy while you hike

[Meowmy]

@BryanaCamp hey sweetie, friendships will always need maintenance. Organizing one outing could be fulfilling as you can learn about those friendships. Don’t stress though. In the end, you try your best out of your good heart. Then it is a good feeling. When you get very busy at work. You might rethink those friendships.lol. Cos with working, it will change perception. So, not worth stressing about. You have done so well. Everything will go well. Don’t worry.

[BryanaCamp]

thank you @Meowmy , you're so kind and wise. You are so right. Now that I'm working I feel better most of the time and my perspective is different then, like I can see more clearly & not so blinded by my MI. I feel so much better for talking with you now, I really appreciate your help  I hope you are well tongiht hon & have a good night's sleep xx

[BryanaCamp]

that's wonderful @Gazza75 I'm really pleased for you that it was a rewarding & uplifting experience. That lady sounds nice & cool. What was your hobby?

Im feeling sorry for myself but feel a bit better after sooking to Meowmy & her wise words...I'm organising a winery lunch for a bunch of friends. It's supposed to be a nice relaxing day for me but my friends are all being a bit diva & high-maintenance which is stressful for me, more work & time when I need my energy to focus on perfomring well at my new jobs. I'm  remembering why I never organise social get togethers. oh boy, friendships are so complicated...Meowmy is right, best not to stress & it's tru I was coming from a good place, trying to bring us all together for a nice time, when I sent out the invites.

Thanks @TAB I think it's a bit more 'grey area' than that, rather than 'black & white". I'll find a way to not stress & follow through with the winery plan as I really want to go. I don't want to just bin it after I've put all that effort in, Plus if I don't see friends regularly I get lonely & werid & more mentally unwell so I can't just run away from it, I have to find a way to cope with my anxiety about my friendships & still socialise. Like Meowmy says, all friendships take maintenance. How did you go with your visitor?

[TAB]

no idea @BryanaCamp  and visitor was total bust just 2 old guys with different agendas, both selfish saw him twice after work then he pulled family issues and ran away 

[Gazza75]

@BryanaCamp maybe see if you can get one of your friends to assist with the details and organising. Take some of the load away from you.

Friendships are hard, I don't have.many to worry about. My mates tend to whine a lot about themselves and others. I tend to think if you don't have something good to say then probably don't bother.

Hobby was bees. 

[Gazza75]

Goodnight everyone, take care.