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โ15-12-2020 05:23 AM
โ15-12-2020 05:23 AM
โ15-12-2020 05:38 AM
โ15-12-2020 05:38 AM
@TheVorticon You have been on my mind for a few days. My recent thread and the โ to tag, or not to tagโ is always a problem for me.
Anyway, just letting you know you are welcome there, if you would like to be, and itโs ok not to be there also.
Two weeks is a long time to wait for a response. Iโm glad your session is still on.
I hope it isnโt too stressful beforehand.
Leaving a bubble tea. โ๏ธโ๏ธ๐ฎ๐ฎ
โ15-12-2020 06:34 AM
โ15-12-2020 06:34 AM
โ15-12-2020 06:55 AM
โ15-12-2020 06:55 AM
Thanks @TheVorticon . I think the CB situation threw me, and felt really hard. I donโt make friends easily, or at all, so rejection starts to play back for a while. Iโm coming to terms with it now, not that there was ever a choice, but sometimes distance helps to find perspective. It was good while it lasted.
Iโm a lot like you when it comes to words. I often donโt have much to say, just that Iโm listening and hearing.
I guess replies from each psych is individual. I would have thought a few days at the max, but thereโs no normal it seems. I really hope the session goes as well as can be expected.
Thanks for your thoughts. I appreciate them. ๐ฎ๐ฎ
โ21-12-2020 06:27 PM
โ21-12-2020 06:27 PM
The session ended up ok.
I'm now trying to decide when to book in for next year. I originally said the 2nd week that he's back from holiday, because I don't want to seem dependent and needy by having an appointment as soon as he's back. But he must've forgotten what I said because when he went to confirm the appointment he's put it on that 1st week unless I prefer the 2nd week.
I'm definitely going to miss him over the break and by the time it comes around I know I'd prefer the 1st week, but I don't know how much of that is just being weak. After all I should be fine for the 2nd week, or 3rd, or never.
So I don't know what to tell him.
@Maggie yeah that's really hard with the CB thing. I wasn't expecting it and it seemed pretty sudden to me. I'm glad you've found a way to come to terms with it and enjoy the good parts of the friendship. ๐
โ22-12-2020 05:48 AM
โ22-12-2020 05:48 AM
@TheVorticon If you can say the first week, ( I know itโs a tough one ) it sounds like the best for you. I know the ( you ) is hard also.
I dont know why these things are such a struggle, they just are. My counsellor will be away for 3 weeks ( I know thatโs a short time compared to most), but it still feels like a looooong time.
Iโm glad the session went ok.
The CB thing is an issue, if Iโm honest, I just donโt want to be honest, so I say the right things ( kind of), just so I look like Iโve got it, but I havenโt. Iโm just scared to connect now. ( Sigh).
Anyway @TheVorticon , Iโm listening, even though I have nothing of value to offer, sometimes thatโs all there honestly is.
I hope Christmas isnโt too hard a time for you, but midnight Friday, itโs over, till next year. ๐ฒ๐ฒ
Take care where you can. Leaving a bubbler tea, a yellow one. ๐ฎ๐ฎ๐ฎ
โ22-12-2020 09:37 PM
โ22-12-2020 09:37 PM
You're right @Maggie , I probably should take the first appointment. I can't bring myself to say that to him yet though.
Sometimes 3 weeks is a long time. It's ok that it will be long for you, even if it's not the same number as other people. Time is very relative and nonlinear when it comes to these kinds of things.
It's ok to be honest about the CB thing. It was an important friendship for you and it majorly sucks that you don't have that forum connection anymore. A sense of loss and grief would be normal. Just trying to connect here and there when you can is good, although I get that it would be scary. The fear of the pain that comes from endings, makes sense.
Listening in itself can sometimes be the most valuable thing Maggie, so thank you.
I hope your Christmas goes smoothly, ok, quickly, or however you'd prefer it to go.
Thanks for the bubble tea ๐ I'll get you a coffee for the morning if I don't fall back to sleep first.
โ01-01-2021 05:16 AM
โ01-01-2021 05:16 AM
@TheVorticon I hope your Christmas was ok enough.
Im here to drop off some New Year best wishes.
Thinking of you. ๐๐๐ฎ๐ฎ
โ01-01-2021 12:43 PM
โ01-01-2021 12:43 PM
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