16-06-2017 12:47 PM
16-06-2017 12:47 PM
I have been struggling with a toxic mother for all my life now. Her controlling, manipulative and emotional blackmail ways is becoming all too much.
I have just called her out on saying very hurtful things about my sister to me and I explained that I didn't appreciate her saying those things to me. Mum denied I said these things and put the blame on me, when I was sticking to my guns and sticking up for what I felt was right. Voicing how I was feeling.
I have PTSD over abuse that happened when I was much younger. I'm at a point where I can talk about it. Mum spent most of my teenage years, supporting the abuser stating it wasn't his fault, instead, it was everyone else, including me. I was then emotionally blackmailed to cut ties with my father whom I have been avoiding and have had no contact with for 10 years.
I have a little brother who is 5 (I'm in my 20's). I love, adore him and I can see the same thing happening to him. I try to be there for him but I hate being around mum because I feel like she is "brainwashing" me when I'm around her. She makes it look to everyone on the outside that she is a great mum but behind close doors she yells, shouts, screams and has the case of hurtful verbal diarrhoea.
My fiancé and I are getting married in the next 6 months. He wants nothing to do with her (I really don't blame him) and while he will never stop me from seeing her, I don't know if I want to see her and maybe draw the line there. But then I think of my brother who I love so much and I know he will be used as a pawn in this mess. Then I think about our wedding and get worried that no one will come because she won't be there. Will I miss her there? Will my life be easy without her?
My anxiety is going through the roof and I'm just so conflicted in what to do. Is there anyone else out there who has difficulties and maybe feel comfortable sharing their experiences?
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