C-PTSD and Childhood Trauma

[Healandlove]

@Appleblossom thank you for sharing.  Humour has often been brought up by our couple psychologist for my husband as a mechanism to help him heal. 

I'm glad these strategies are working for you. It helps my husband too but he is very stubborn so progress is slow but it is there which is the most important thing.

Sending you hugs 🫂 

[Appleblossom]

@Healandlove 

I don't think finding a sense of humour can be forced.  Also it has to be real and relevant to the individual. I thought I simply didn't have any humour for most of my life. It has been very gradual ... 

If it is used to judge someone for a lack or deficit it may be counterproductive. It is hard to know for sure how to move forward with it. 

I think for a long time I unconsciously believed it was wrong to laugh as we had so much tragedy.

Gently Bently

Apple 

[Healandlove]

@Appleblossom i completely agree. Through therapy i have learnt to understand where my husband is coming from. What I meant is that he is stubborn with regards to change, he is capable and has shown positive change in so many ways but he resists in so many other ways. But I understand it takes time and patience.  For example, he feels uncomfortable with praise because he never received it growing up. But although he is uncomfortable with it, he craves it so feels unappreciated but yet when praise is given he rejects it. So it is a vicious circle. I am following the psychologist guidance to still give the praise and encouragement so that's what I do. Eventually I guess he will accept that it is a good thing and it will become normal for him. 

Anyway, it's a matter of time and patience 😌. 

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@Shaz51 how are you my sister.  Sorry I have been away from the forum, work has me working at all hours. Kids back to school so crazy busy. How are you? 

Sending hugs to everyone reading in Sane Forum land 🫂

[Healandlove]

@avant-garde i love your inner-child thread idea! And what you describe about connecting with your inner child, i do that too these days. I give her lots of hugs in my mind (the ones I didn't get from my older sister which I wanted so much). I tell my inner child that there's nothing wrong with being empathetic and softly spoken. I tell her she has achieved so much and that she is strong. She is lovely ❤️

[avant-garde]

@Healandlove 

She has her own bedroom in my "safe place" where I visualise when I'm triggered and overwhelmed. It's been great to see her grow from this timid 3 year old peeking out to this vibrant 7-10 year old who reminds me so much of me

[tyme]

Thinking of you all @avant-garde @Healandlove @Appleblossom @Former-Member 

[Former-Member]

Thanks @tyme ☺️.

[Till23]

@Former-Member and @avant-garde I know a lot of people have funky socks now. I can still remember my first pair.

I have lots with animals and things including monarch butterflies @Former-Member ! I think it was you who said you raised butterflies.

Today I wore some with bees.

I have two big drawers full of socks, I have ones for every occasion.

[Former-Member]

@Till23 glad to meet another crazy sock collector 😂 

And yes it was me that raises monarch butterflies 🦋. 

Wearing funky socks make me smile a little ☺️.

[avant-garde]

@Till23 @Former-Member 

I was theorising different socks for different days

Sunday - sundae

Monday - moon-day

Tuesday - tunes-day

Wednesday - Wedding Nessie-day (loch ness monster) 

Thursday - thirst-day

Friday - Fries-day

Saturday - sat-turd-day