My son is 24 and just started living back home in a van . He was diagnosed ADHD as a child never medicated . Always difficult. Now suffers severe anxiety and depression. Has become aggressive towards me blames me for shit life. . Can't keep a job and won't apply for Centrelink. Doesn't think anything is wrong. How do I help him. It is torture for me as I do not have support like family to help . I don't know where to start . I have rung community health centres and mental health care and a few others . They just put into someone else who can't help me .
Firstly welcome to the forums, it is great to meet you on here and I hope you find it a supportive and helpful place!
It sounds like you have been the main support for your son for a long time as he has struggled with different diagnoses. That must be really hard at times and especially now when you are concerned about him and he does not feel he needs help. I'm also a bit concerned when you mention that he becomes aggressive towards you. That sounds like a scary experience and I'm wondering if as well as getting extra support on the forums it would be worth calling 1800 RESPECT, they are a national 24/7 helpline that supports people who are dealing with relationships where there is a misuse of power, and they definitely speak to people who are experiencing aggressive behaviour from their adult children.
I know other forum members can relate to this experience, for a start here is another discussion (a 'closed' one) where members have talked about supporting someone who doesn't want help. It can be so so hard, I hope you find the forums helpful with this tough situation and important questions you're asking about trying to get help.
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