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26-02-2019 11:00 PM
26-02-2019 11:00 PM
Re: Can't cope with the guilt trips & responsibility
Hi @VeeM and welcome to the forums 👋
@Corny @LittleSister there was a Topic Tuesday info sesh on the forums tonight to do with compassion fatigue and carer’s burnout. I will tag y’all to it so you can take s look if you like. @outlander @Former-Member , I know you are both aware of it anyway ....
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27-02-2019 08:07 AM
27-02-2019 08:07 AM
Re: Can't cope with the guilt trips & responsibility
Thanks Corn Dog for your words. I read them twice.
I had a blow up with C and made some demands (respect, manners etc) and surprise surprise, she rang me later and sounded totally sane and calm and cooperative. Let’s see how long it lasts. I think I just have to pull her up EVERY TIME she crosses the line. I hate being put in the authoritarian role. I resigned from that years ago. That was poor ol’ Dad’s job.
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15-03-2019 08:37 PM
15-03-2019 08:37 PM
Re: Can't cope with the guilt trips & responsibility
How are you going @Corny ?
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16-03-2019 04:40 PM
16-03-2019 04:40 PM
Re: Can't cope with the guilt trips & responsibility
hello @VeeM , @LittleSister , @Corny , @Former-Member , @Faith-and-Hope
how are you today
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04-06-2019 02:19 PM
04-06-2019 02:19 PM
Re: Can't cope with the guilt trips & responsibility
I too am dealing with not one but my own mother and my MIL being very passive aggressive towards me the only member of the family who cares enough to care and my husbands MI. Some days I just swing from one to the other. The more I share re the mum situation the more people share with me that they are in a similar situation. It seems to be very widespread. I worked for over 30 yrs in the Aged care sector and saw for myself the interplay of this happening to hundreds of other families. I retired but stepped into the mess myself. Even knowing all I knew I was not prepared for the cruelty and neglect of me as the whipping post for all three. Boundaries need to be respected and very tightly controlled. I have now explained quietly to them “IF YOU HURT ME I CANNOT HELP YOU ANYMORE”. They don’t like it but that’s my rule. It some weird backwards way I am now respected. Go figure.
Bless and gentle hugs. You are not alone and neither am I.
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23-06-2019 10:01 AM
23-06-2019 10:01 AM
Re: Can't cope with the guilt trips & responsibility
hey @Corny just wondering how your going?
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