Lived Experience Forum

[Owlunar]

I know you're angry @BlueBay  - and I would be too - I would not like it one bit if someone said something like that to me

But I would let it go - perhaps it would be best if you did too - it's not your fault that you guys haven't been in touch - as you say - they can get in touch with you too

Ask yourself what you would be able to gain by getting into an angry convo about whatever this is about - what can you gain

And more importantly - how would it make you feel?

Yes - it is an unpleasant way for someone to behave - who would want a friend who addressed them in such a manner and yes - time does go fast

I'm sorry that happened

Dec

[BlueBay]

Hi @Owlunar  how are you? What have you been up to?

i know my BPD doesn’t help me with my anger. 

It just hurts. I’m a nice person who doesn’t cause problems for anyone. And then to be told I don’t contact someone or be angry with me isn’t right. 

I don’t like when someone talks crap to me especially when I know it’s nit only my fault. 

Little A is asleep. At 2 her little cousins are coming over for her birthday. Just getting some little snacks ready. My d made her cake last night. Choc mud cake with pink icing snd yelliw sprinkles (just like Emma from Wiggles) it looks really nice. 

You know in a way I’ll be glad when my d moves out. I need my space and they do too. It’s getting too much. 

[MDT]

Hey @BlueBay
People are strange aren't they?
My close friend has become a bit of a self opinionated know it all to be perfectly honest. It's his new job that has made him think like it. He has a chip on his shoulder it seems.

Rather than respond to it we just have to accept it is what it is.

I would hold off on texting your friend if I were you. Leave it for a while I would say like @Owlunar suggested.

Best to leave it where it is. Sometimes managing relations can be like nuclear physics.

[Owlunar]

Hi @BlueBay 

I can get pretty angry sometimes and it depends on the situation but yes - there are times when I give as good as I get and others I let it go deciding not to dignify the situation with conversation but rarely am I involved with people I know when there is a dispute - I find people in supermarkets can be rude - I dont get it - I am just there and I have as much right as everyone else - yeah - enough said - how often are we attacked by ramdom trolleys that do have someone pushing them -

My daughter left home when she was 17 - she moved back home for a short time but she had made that move away and left again - and she has married and we may not see each other often but we are good friends - we give each other a lot of space but we are there for each other

I have always believed that if you let your kids fly they will come back - living together in the same house might end - I don't think I would be happy sharing space with her after all these years I have lived alone - 30 years this year - I guess we get used to our own space after such a long timee

What have I been doing? It's just over a week since I got back to Melbourne after a week with stable warm weather in the tropics. Since then I have had back pain and on Friday I got an order for an MRI from my doctor - it's the first move in getting a new pain specialist - there is no way I will go back to the one I had - I was going to that pain clinic for a long time - years and years - and I am done with them - actually just the pain specialist that took over my case which is a pity because for a long time I had excellent service.

Sometimes we have to make dramatic changes in our lives - this is a dramatic change but I don't have to say in the public system - I can find someone who will suit me better

I hope you are settling down now - it was not your fault that the guy behaved so badly - whatever caused that is his business - but so bad - this I hear

Dec

[Shaz51]

hugs and hugs my sister @BlueBay 

had a big gall bladder attack last night and soo tired today xxx

but siting with you always

[BlueBay]

Hi @Owlunar 

Sorry to read you’re in pain. That’s not good. it’s good you’re having a MRI snd a new pain med doctor. It’s good to have a different opinion. 

I’m ok now about our friend. I’m not going to do anything about him. If he’s going to be like thst then that’s his problem. I’m not getting blamed for his rudeness. 

I think an early night tonight. Busy weekend with A birthday. But so worth it. 

Take care dec. xxxx

[BlueBay]

Oh no sis @Shaz51  that’s not good. I can imagine how tired you must be. Pls rest up snd take care. Hugs ❤️❤️

[Molliex]

Oh @Shaz51 you have my sympathy. I had my gallbladder out 2 years ago. The pain attacks were horrific, worse than childbirth! 

[Shaz51]

thank you @Molliex , @BlueBay 

i will see the gp about it '

hope you are ok today

[saturnzoon]

Haven't been feeling well last coupe of days, been sick,  cold and a headache I'm having trouble getting rid off. Just been sleeping on and off last couple of days 

@Shaz51 @BlueBay @Molliex @Owlunar @MDT @Ant7