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Charlierose
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Partner pushing me away - need support

My partner of three years has just broken up with me. The problem is,  we’ve moved to his home country from mine where we were both living and I have no support network here at all. We haven’t even been here six months and he’s called it quits. 

We’ve been planning this move for over a year, because he has been so unhappy and homesick where we were. He’s been unhappy with his job for a long time and whenever something stressful at work takes place (he went on stress leave a few months ago) he pushes me away and inevitably breaks up with me, blaming me for all his unhappiness. Am I really to blame? I’ve only ever tried to help and encourage him and make him happy. 

 

He’s had a hard childhood and has some issues he needs to sort out regarding his parents, but when we went to counselling and this was bought up he dismissed it and won’t talk about it. 

 

He recently started taking antidepressants but now wants to stop them because he says he’s not depressed but that it’s me who has been making him so very unhappy throughout our relationship.

 

Our relationship has never been perfect but we love each other so very much, and I’m struggling to recognise the cold and angry person he is being now. 

 

He’s told me he will book me a flight home if that’s what I want to do and that he won’t be changing his mind. Please does anyone have any advice? I’m absolutely devastated, and can’t accept this is truly what he wants. 

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Re: Partner pushing me away - need support

Hi @Charlierose

 

Welcome to the Forum and thanks for sharing your story.

 

That is a huge load you are carrying. I hope you are finding time for yourself, taking time out and looking after your self care. One of the things you can control is doing things that help you to cope and looking after yourself as best you can.

 

You mentioned that you have been to couples counselling. Perhaps it might be helpful for you to see a relationships counsellor just by yourself to talk all this through. The following service is vey affordble and have many excellent counsellors with experience in dealing with situations like yours https://www.relationships.org.au/

 

I hope that you will find the forums to be a supportive place for exploring all these issues. Just a tip, if you are replying to someone or wanting to notify or touch base with someone, place an @ before their username, as in @Charlierose

 

All the best

Joe The Lion

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