Lived Experience Forum

[Little_Leopard]

@Anxious_Mumma 

For some reason my Spidey-Sense have been triggered and are telling me that you are not the problem in this situation.

It is ok to leave the marriage if you are unhappy. You do not have to be intimate with anyone if you don’t want to be. Don’t feel bad for that.

Trust your gut and do what you need to do to feel happy again. Go and find yourself again.

Maybe it’s time to re think what happiness is for you.

[Anxious_Mumma]

@Little_Leopard I have thought of that, but there are kids involved and have seen what a separation will do to them. Not sure i can put my kids through that.

[Little_Leopard]

@Anxious_Mumma 

I think the children are better of with a happy and healthy mumma than a depressed and deflated mumma.

Separation is not pleasant but it can be done amicably in a way that is good role modelling for the kids. 

Would you want your kids to stay in a relationship that they were miserable in?

plus you don’t need to go through this by yourself. You could talk first with a psychologist and ask for family support. 
Or are there other things holding you back.

I am genuinely worried about your situation. I feel that you feel trapped and sad. I want you to know that you have the power and control to do what you need to do. What ever that is.