09-07-2025 11:58 PM
09-07-2025 11:58 PM
I trust your day at home was either productive or restful @NatureLover . Is the new software likely to be tricky?
I had a slow start then went and picked up hundreds of litter, my go-to for feeling worthy. Then family stuff came up. I've dealt with it for now but it's going to blow up at some stage. I'm trying to act with integrity as third parties are involved. Yesterday other family were putting pressure on me again about other stuff. Very stressful.
I remember 40 years ago, before mental health was talked about much, stress management was emphasised. Workplaces ran courses and reIaxation tapes were popular. Minor tranquillisers were often prescribed, although dependence could become a problem. Yet now in these forums I can't remember many people ever raising stress as an issue. I'm not sure if it's a change of language usage and the way people describe things or if there's a genuine change and perceived internal states and relationship difficulties are now people's concerns rather than external stressors. Housing and finance problems and work pressures are still around but maybe they're accepted, unlike mental health where we blame ourselves.
Sorry to bring that up. I'm fighting neck and shoulder tension and a headache which I reckon are just stress related. My counsellor would say to let go of what I can't control but I think that's when it's internalised. Thinking back to what I was taught, progressive muscle relaxation and meditation come to mind... if they work for you.
Gosh it's cold.
10-07-2025 08:33 AM
10-07-2025 08:33 AM
Hi @Dimity , I studied the new software which doesn't seem too tricky. But I didn't clear the kitchen floor. My psychologist appt is tomorrow, so I guess I failed in my goal.
Well done on picking up the litter! Wow.
So sorry about the stress and pressure from your family 😥
You wrote "unlike mental health where we blame ourselves". This struck me, as I don't blame myself for any of my 6 MIs. Do I blame myself for failing to tidy up? That's a tricky one. Maybe a little.
I know stress affects my MH.
I hope your headache and neck and shoulder tension ease 🤞 and you can have a good day if possible...
10-07-2025 09:46 PM
10-07-2025 09:46 PM
Hello @NatureLover . I imagine you'll have a lot to report to your psychologist.
I ended up sleeping about 11 hours. I was worn out.
Today I got the fence quote and finally posted my referral. I'm disturbed by some politics at the moment too so contacted my mp with my concerns.
I have a mountain of chores to attend to. And more family pressure today. None of it got done.
Do you think you'll come back to your tidy state? Or let it go for now? I'll have to make an effort tomorrow as I'm running out of clean stuff.
I think I do feel guilty about my mh, that it's a personal failing, although circumstances weren't good. And I feel conflicted about my physical limitations.
Friday tomorrow - errands day for you?
11-07-2025 08:42 AM
11-07-2025 08:42 AM
Hi @Dimity , 11 hours! That would have done you good. And well done for posting your referral and getting the fence quote. Is it reasonable, the quote?
My psychologist moved the appt to next Weds, so I have a chance of tidying up before then. Even though I have something on every day till then.
I'm sorry you feel guilty about your MH 😥
Yes, errands today plus I need to get the laptop sorted out and ready to go for next Tuesday. There's a local computer shop I can go to if needed today for help.
I hope you feel up to getting stuff done today 🤞
11-07-2025 11:31 PM
11-07-2025 11:31 PM
The quote did sound reasonable @NatureLover but I don't have it in writing yet. I'm getting another quote at 8.30 tomorrow. I hope I wake up in time.
A tree I looked out on was cut down today. It seemed healthy. Maybe the owners are subdividing.
I did 2 1/2 hours of chores but am still behind.
Is the laptop still needing work before you can use it?
12-07-2025 07:38 AM
12-07-2025 07:38 AM
Good morning @Dimity ! You'll be up soon for your quote. 8.30am on a Saturday seems an unusual time!
I'm sad that tree was cut down.
2 1/2 hours of chores is excellent work. More than I've been doing.
I did end up taking the laptop to the computer shop - I was dumb and couldn't work it. The nice man helped me to set it up for no charge and answered all my questions. Now all I need to do is download a free spreadsheet programme and charge it up before Tuesday. The man said it was a very good laptop - I feel very blessed.
I wasn't sure I could complete all my errands yesterday, but ended up going home to get scripts and completing them.
I hope all goes well with getting the quote and you feel up to doing stuff today...
yesterday
Well done on yesterday's efforts @NatureLover , especially the laptop.
The fence quotes will be emailed. I didn't have as much confidence in today's fencer.
I've ordered some plants for the backyard, and potted up some succulents.
I felt I'd made progress.
an hour ago
Well done on the garden work, @Dimity - that would've been satisfying. It was a nice day for it.
I went for a dog walk yesterday with a friend. Today I am going out for lunch.
Thanks for your kind words. 🙂
I'm glad you felt you saw some progress. I hope that was encouraging.
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