Depression Dementia Dad

[Former-Member]

Thanks @soul, think of you when my shoulder flares up. Your injury & surgery must have been aganizing 😞 sympathy++
Catch ya over the Good Morning Thread. Tell me what your w'end plans are.

[Former-Member]

The psychologist ran through some destressing activies yesterday:
Mindfullness - (centreing thoughts to the now) & what it is that relaxes me. I call it "FEEDS MY SOUL" - BRINGS ME JOY - which i think is needlework & gardening mostly. But i've automatically gone to these of late, especially since the BP was 180/120

Ouch. My ankle needs support bandage. Poopsy!

Haha, that reminds me of an aunt who, whenever frustrated. would prattle off:

"ShitBloodyPoopBumKick!" LOL

And that reminds me of a saying dad has when closing off a phone convo:

"Keep ya nose clean,
ya stockings up,
ya mind sharp &
ya bowels open...
And dont do anything
I wouldn't enjoy"
LvDad

Funny what we remember - I've had such an educated childhood lol

[soul]

Sounds like your Dad knows his stuff @Former-Member. Yeah shoulder - have no idea how I went from laying facedown on a gravel road to getting to the hospital back home. Must have been the painkillers.

Going from strength to strength. Kind of happy it didn’t happen in winter because getting dressed is one of the hardest things. Putting on jeans and long sleeved tops would have been so hard. Even now, I go for loose fitting clothes. Bought a couple more strapless bras today that you just step into and pull up. Can’t even begin to do up clips at the back of regular ones. Apparently that’s the trickiest manoeuvre. 

[soul]

FEEDS MY SOUL - BRINGS ME JOY

Thats so cool @Former-Member. I really like it. Can I adopt that mantra too?

[Former-Member]

Of cause you can use it @soul. Anything that brings healing energy, lifts our heart... brings peace / joy... Yep, our soul is energy, so it 'feeds my soul' / spirit. Glad you got it. Theres so many different ways of saying the same thing that we have to find the ones that best fit. Words are powerful.

[Former-Member]

Quiet day today. Bro3 rang dad & seemed quite 'normal' Didnt address me (nor I him). He's made threats (in a text) to get rid of me as carer because i wont trust him to have keys to this house. I'm not aware that mum had gave the house keys to anyone before, neither am i comfortable doing it. Not with them. Anways, losing mum is hard for Bro3.
Dad had some special shoe fitting today, for shoes that support his arthritis deformity. DVA will cover costs, pretty good that magic 'gold card' The attemding was a French fellow 'Pierre Pierre' lol

[soul]

Quiet days can be good days @Former-Member. The more siblings, bigger chance of conflict?

Conspiracies, greed, mistrust - yuck!

I went from being an executor and power of attorney with my sister to being one of three with my sister and bro with two out of three to make decisions to being shut out completely.
Was made to surrender keys to my Mum’s home. Yet it was me who for years, tended to all her needs.

Manipulation plus 🤔

[soul]

Good news on the shoes issue 👞

[Shaz51]

hugs @Former-Member 

[Former-Member]

Sounds awful @soul, them stuffing you around like that, like you dont matter. Gives me a heads'up what could be coming. My heart is pure. My goal is for dad's best interest / quality of life - to stay at home & 'age in place' with all services which i know well.
One thing i have to keep practising is to - not take offence.
- Not take it personal
- tell nobody but confidants
Guess if they can prove dad's better off in the care of another (whose available) then that's what i want for dad too, its not about me. Besides - I'd be free. And besides, sometimes God even brings unfair decisions into our life for a higher purpose in mind. When I'm not meant to be here anymore - the Lord will tell me.

Did i tell you - yesterday i fou d the readon why my calls weren't coming through dad's landline - someone has blocked my number. Only mine. Why are they doing this - it affects dad, his safety. Not sure how long its been like that 😞 What could they gain from this. Took me 1/2hr to figure out how to undo it 😞