Depression Dementia Dad

[soul]

Good idea to get some rest. So much for you to deal with. You need to look after yourself too &lapses

[NewDawn]

Hi Laspes, 

You asked how likely it is that Bro3 will get physicially violent. I cant give an exact answer on how likely this is, but im sensing that your feeling worried. 

Its likely that your the best person to access the risk, by thinking about what changes you notice before he escalates to physicial violence  or things you would anticipate to happen, this may include changes in his mental health or an escalation in verbal abuse for instance. It is then worth creating abit of a plan around keeping yourself safe. I have included a link below that may be of support, you may also like to consider ringing a service which supports people around  Domestic and Family Violence their number is 1800 737 732. 

https://www.1800respect.org.au/help-and-support/safety-planning/

Do let us know if you have any questions 

NewDawn 

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hi @Former-Member ....,

I have been following along with you a bit this morning, but hav by jumped online till now. My mr. is hissy this morning, so while he was out I showered and got a few things done to be able to leave when he returned. The kids are still alseep, so they won’t be wearing it ..... and he is showering and changing to leave the house again himself.

In the coffee shop now.

There is a lot of psychological pressure in your situation Hon. Brace yourself, and try to only let in what is important ...... raise your shield against anything else ....,. And self-care as much as you can.

I hope you really enjoy the lunch with your auntie and uncle, and just park thin rest up for a while.

You’re a trouper ...... hugz ❣️

[Former-Member]

Thanks @NewDawn, @soul, F&H

[Shaz51]

sending you hugs too for today my friend  @Former-Member 

[soul]

I know you had a couple things on today @Former-Member. I hope they went well and you are feeling better and more rested.
Take care, my friend.

[Former-Member]

@Former-Member
Given Dads condition, wondering if you can get some cleaning help through HACC or the like?

[Former-Member]

Hi @soul, @Former-Member, @Shaz51, @Faith&Hope...

Yesterday was hard internally - next to no sleep, anxiety Bro3 was gonna come & 'go off'... & my aunt coming over for lunch... ... BUT fortunately lunch went well, Bro's3&4 didn't turn up (intimidate / harrass) further. Not a relaxing 'day off' really (especially with lawn mowers, hovering noisy garbage collection trucks... that seem to go on forever, some low flying air craft... & did i mention lawn mowers 😕 Friday is officially the noisiest day of the week here...
I miss my quiet country town...
I miss mum nagging me2 lol
I miss dad's intellect
I miss my girl.

BUT, guess lunch went well, dad got to his Vetaran's day & i even made it to the Psychologist where i just blarblarred... Oh, and a friend back home rang (that feels like a different life now, a dream).

Ad for cleaning, i've left the services in place that mum had = dads showers, lawn mowing, cleaner 1.5hrs f/n (to vac & mop). It helps a little. Oh, i have also engaged a subsidised Linen service - they provide & wash the bedding & pick up & replace twice a week. It all helps.

Slipped on the step to my room this morning 😞 hurt my ankle & jarred my back 😞 & have i mentioned me shoulder - rotator cuff injury last year 😞 Pain is annoying. Thinking of poor @Owlunar & @Kurra & you Soul. Isn't it amaxing we keep going even in pain.

"ALL THINGS PASS
EVEN GREAT PAIN"

[Former-Member]

Great to hear you have that support @Former-Member.

[soul]

Well - you survived another day @Former-Member and achieved a heap of stuff. Good on you.

Noise / quiet - I would prefer quiet. Sometimes I think I’d be okay in a little country town. Too far away from the kids though - my reason for being.

Missing my Mum too. See her picture smiling at me. No more pain for her.

Yep - one of her favourite sayings - all things must pass.

Have a good day and be good to yourself. You matter - a whole lot.